My Confessions
I miss dating my husband
Recently Tom and I have spent time with the TV off just talking.
I know every man's worst nightmare.
We've mentioned a few times advice we would give our friends that are expecting their first babies.
Tom always says:
- Go out together. Go out to the store, to dinner, to the movies do all of these things a lot because once the baby is here you can't drop everything at 11pm and run to Wal-Mart for candy.
- Travel. If you like to travel, even if you don't, do it before the baby arrives. Traveling with kids can be such a hassle. All the extra stuff you have to bring and all the things you suddenly can't do because you have a tiny person.
I agreed with him. Especially with number one.
I haven't been to the movie theater since The Dark Knight. I was pregnant with Lucas. We probably won't get to go to the movies again for another 3 years. Do I miss it? No I'm not a huge movie person. But you know it's the simple things we don't get to do anymore I miss.
Some of my best memories is going out late for no reason. We used to get into the car and drive downtown for no reason at all. We have never done Beale Street at night. I've never been into an actual bar. We would just drive downtown to drive down there and drive home. It was getting out of the house, alone, with my husband. We'd listen to music, hold hands, and enjoy each other.
We watched the Orionid Meteor shower about 5 years ago we were up well past midnight then once we decided we were too cold and couldn't stand it we went to Waffle House at 1:30am.
One weekends we would go drive really late for no reason.
We miss these things because we can't do them anymore. Will we get to do them again? Yea once the kids are much older.
I would not trade my boys for these things. They have brought so much more happiness to our lives.
But I miss dating my husband. It's harder to do things we enjoy because of having kids. I think in the end it allows us to appreciate getting to do these things on the rare occasion it happens.
What did you do before you had kids that you can't do anymore?
Go out just the two of you! I miss that so much. I hate leaving my kids so we don't get out much just the two of us much.
ReplyDeleteI 100% hear you on this. I probably miss the most Saturday morning breakfasts. We used to throw on comfy clothes and go get some pancakes followed by some shopping and moseying around town.
ReplyDeleteI love our family of 3 but definitely miss fun weekend nights just me and the hubs. We have no family in town so we don't get a lot of 'alone' time. We do have family coming up later in March though and you can bet your bottom that we're going to let them watch Drew and catch up on some dates!! :)
Lay in bed all morning together on the weekends. I miss that so much! Most Saturdays we wouldn't get out of bed until 1-2 in the afternoon. We would just cuddle, talk, watch movies. It was so nice.
ReplyDeleteI would agree with your confession 100%! It's part of my resolutions for 2013 to spend more time with just my husband because I truly miss it.
ReplyDeleteWe used to go to the movies all the time pre kiddies. I do miss movie dates but if we do get a babysitter I would rather go to dinner and be able to talk than sit and watch a movie.
ReplyDeleteMy youngest is 7 and and a half but I have a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old. My oldest babysits for us sometimes so we can have a date night. Then sometimes my kids will stay with one of my sisters. This past Saturday we were kid free and went walking down the nature trail at the park. It may not seem like much, but it was nice to just spend time together.
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Oh my gosh, I can totes relate!! My hubby is working the overnight schedule and the other night he actually got home early (around 2am) and I woke up and we were just chatty chatty chatty and coincidentally both hungry...and I was like "remember when we would just take random 2am trips to dennys?" and he was like "sigh, yes." lol and while it's not the most special or interesting thing we've sacrificed, still, it's something to miss!!
ReplyDeleteI totally get this! I think it is really normal for couples to experience this after having kids.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness - I LOVE THIS! I was just thinking about this a few days ago - reminiscing about all the carefree things I did, and I did with my husband, before Ben was born. When we could pick up and drive to Wal Mart at 10 pm because we wanted ice cream, or something else ridiculous. We did a lot of spontaneous things like you too - loved it! Like you said, I wouldn't trade Ben for the world, but I do miss just being carefree with little responsibilities. And worrying about money all the time hahaha!
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I totally agree with this. My husband and I got in the car once and drove to Las Vegas (about 5 hrs away from where we were living) just because we wanted to drink frozen booze on the street.
ReplyDeleteSigh.
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Megan @ thememoirsofmegan.com
I'm glad to read this and share with the hubs and make sure to do these things before baby arrives!!! Thanks for sharing!
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